Priorities and tests of strength

[Kettricken]

Is the still the puppy thread? I fell behind again.

Burg, I will just say this about that, no analogies: if my husband hadn't been willing to not only show me his puppy but lay it on its fuzzy little back, I don't think we ever would have gotten past our sexual issues. He (according to him) really needed an outside perspective on some his historical sh*t, and fortunately I was able to provide it. And it wasn't a case of "Oh, eureka, now I finally have the answer I have been seeking" -- he wasn't fully aware there even was a question at that point. He was just open to me with his vulnerabilities, past and present, and the discussions just sort of took on a life of their own.

Admittedly, I had a really good track record of *not* stomping his puppy, which is certainly a variable to factor in.

Be *able* to deal with something internally doesn't mean it's *optimum*.