Hey Michelle. It's funny how another person's intervention helps. The least pressure would be a card through the mail, I suppose. Just a "thinking of you" card, "hope you're doing well." If I called on the phone, she probably wouldn't answer it. Same with the text message, so I guess the card.
Info I haven't shared with ya'll I don't think: At the end of July we had a big argument and she said "don't call me, I'll call you." So I didn't. But I did send a "neutral" card once in August and once in September and then she ended up calling me in late September. I asked her when we got together why she called me after 7 weeks of no contact and 4 months of no seeing each other and she said, "the cards."
So - I don't know if that will work again this time or if she'll think I'm trying to make it work again so she won't respond. She's very sensitive to any possible sense of manipulation.
Also, I haven't shared: When we last spoke on the phone, we had a pretty intense argument because I mistakenly accused her of being influenced by her ex (who has had the religious metamorphosis and has definitely been an influence on GF). GF said she didn't appreciate me accusing her of not having a mind of her own. Other words were said and she hung up on me then called me right back and said, "I do not want any further communication from you at all. Erase my phone numbers from your phone. I'm tired of hearing your voice and your words." Then we sent a few text messages back and forth in which I accused the ex of being happy because she has finally gotten what she wanted.
The story of the ex is another long story but she & GF mutually agreed to separate a few years ago (supposedly religion played a part) BUT she has been miserable since GF moved out and spent 2 years doing a LOT of drinking and "dating." She never found happiness and had nowhere to go but religion. I sincerely believe she had all of this in her mind (perhaps unconsciously) all along. She would go back to church, become close "friends" again with GF, declare that she's given up being a lesbian, GF would jump on the same bandwagon because she has always been very influenced by ex (she told me she put her on a pedestal), they would get me out of the picture, and live happily ever after together as friends and "partners" (although I really don't think there's any sex). I know this sounds like a bunch of damn lesbian drama. It is.
Anyway - after all that, do you think the card is the most appropriate? I'm about to be sick of this whole mess. It looks even messier on this computer screen.
