I definitely agree with your point about fixing what you have than trading in for a newer model, as does everyone on this site I think, otherwise we'd be long gone.
Which of those types of contact do you think she would see as the least pressure? Remember, you're testing the waters, but don't chase her away with pressure. And you need to be fully prepared for the fact that she almost certainly will not have come to terms with her sexuality and will have very mixed feelings about any conversations with you. I'm just saying, be prepared.
Keep doing things for yourself. You sound good. Hang in there.
Michelle - Proud DR Rockette S: 28JUL07, D'd: 29OCT09 http://tinyurl.com/27j9qo2