You're right!! So I'll stop it right here although the temptation is terrible!
I'm just really awful at getting across my opinion. It's somewhere in between what I think your opinion is (that Mrs. Brian was completely wrong and completely screwed up) and what I think you think my opinion is (that Mrs. Brian acting completely appropriately and did nothing "wrong").
Should you be able to count on him?
Yes I should be able to count on him (and I do). While I am not needy or demanding, when I need something from Raven, I ask.
This confuses me because I'm not sure if you're saying that Brian's wife made a mistake or not.
Yes she did. Whether she knew she was making a mistake or not is the question I have.
Brian said he text'd both his mom and his wife. Whatever he text'd was enough to cause his mom to jump on a plane and fly out.
My "assumption" is that Brian's mom knew his wife was with her mom and THAT was what precipitated the quick flight to Brian.
But I think Brian has every right to be upset and to expect better in the future.
I think he has a right to feel upset and expect different behavior from his wife. I also believe it would be more honest of him to have followed up with his wife with his condition as soon as he was able. I also think he should shake off the feeling that asking his wife to come home is somehow demeaning. Asking for what you want and need is not weak in my book.
Maybe I am just optimistic but I believe in being a team and partnership and if Raven and I don't give each other information, we put the other in the position of having to guess about things. We both have so much going on in our lives that we usually don't have time to try to guess what the other needs. What's "ironic" is that by being so open we are usually able to "guess" what to do for the other because we have LEARNED directly from the other what they want or need.
It's just my opinion and I completely understand that it takes a willing and able partner to manage it. And honestly we still don't manage it perfectly but each of us knows the other is doing their best.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
