FIB's wifes response to him right now is no different than it has been at any other point in his sitch when he began to seriously detach and pull away from her.
We have seen this before.
You can call it baby steps if you like (though I'd be careful saying that around FIB), but if you've been watching, we've all seen this show before.
What has been lacking everytime is ANY step of substance. ANY step.
Words require actions to make them real. Otherwise they are empty. Particularly after what has taken place by the wandering spouse in most of our sitch's.
I think our back and forth here is rather pointless. Short of any NEW or SUBSTANTIAL change in FIB's wifes behavior, I won't see recent events as anything but more of the same. Perhaps a bit more desperate now because the divorce is looking more real to her this time.
And for those with the other outlook, you will never fail to see hope in her actions, no matter how small or how similar to past actions that lacked any substance.
FIB is there. He's living with it everyday. I trust that his head is screwed on straight. He had the opportunity to say that he wanted to "start again." He declined. I'm doing my best now to support him through these next steps, even as I know that in his heart he will always wish it could turn out differently.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
