My T said the same thing, many times. Around the time my ex-wife first moved out, I recall seeing a post on a forum here about a woman who'd been widowed and who'd been an LBS who said that it was more painful when the spouse walked than when the first one died.
I mean no disrespect to the grief of anyone who's lost a spouse or partner to death, but there is no "natural" closure to a divorce. The spouse who's "gone" is never "gone," especially when they stay local, when there's a need for contact on behalf of children (or pets), etc.
Lissie,
I remember having to say I was "legally separated" the first time, when I took the last contract I had as a self-employed consultant. Later I had to put the check mark on "divorced" at the same place, and it did feel weird. I'm getting used to it now, though, so much so that I did a double take at a woman's online dating profile where she checked "single" but said in her text that she's divorced.
Oh, and I hear that your shoes are so hot you made the sun jealous. Is that true? Enquiring minds want to know.
Thanks,
Joe
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