First things first... I FINALLY SPOKE TO MY DAUGHTER! I JUST GOT OFF THE PHONE WITH HER! It is so good to hear her voice at last. She was crying and saying she missed me very much. I told her I loved her and hoped to see her soon.
I also talked with my W, who had sent me a very long list of things she wants for her apartment. I told her I don't know what I can and can't give her right now, so I'm not sure what to do.
She asked for the "bare minimum" things (Aerobed, bedding, pillows, towels, etc. and I'll give her that stuff for now. I'm probably going to be "nice" and throw in a few kitchen items as well, but NO FURNITURE. She wants a TV, DVD, and VCR, but she won't be getting those right now.
I told her I didn't want to be an A-hole about things, but we are in a legal situation and our lawyers haven't even spoken yet. Thus, I'm not sure what I can and can't do.
I hate this right now, but I need to be firm, but fair and make sure she knows this is real. I'm glad because I was able to not get mad even when my W began baiting me about "you didn't answer your phone, so I wasn't keeping D from talking to you." I started to aruge, then resisted and just said "ok."
She wants to come over tomorrow at 1 pm to get her stuff, but I think I should be here so I'll probably move it back a bit to around 2 or so. I've placed a call to my L and am waiting to hear from him. I may not tonight, but we'll see. For now, I know I'll get my D on Thursday, but not on Friday. I told my W I had plans and she wasn't real happy, but she said she'd let me see her on Saturday instead. I told her I had to be at the Football League Party that was planned before New Years b/c I have all the money that needs to be paid out.
My W gave me the line of "I'm living in a hotel, so fantasy football and beer were the last thing on my mind." Do I go or do I cancel? That is the real question?
Am I DBing by doing my own thing and taking my D on Saturday instead of Friday? I would rather be with my D, but I'm also trying to GAL.
I'm REALLY, REALLY unsure of what to do. If I don't take her on Friday, does it send a good or bad message? I'm looking to do the right thing, the 180, the best bit of DBing I can. The problem is, I don't know what that is.
I get to see my girl for two days regardless. I'm anxious to hear if you think I should go out on Friday or cancel. RTL
