Priorities and tests of strength

[Burgbud]

(Corri) The jaded lone cowboy schtick... in a martyr wearing chaps.

Nah. The bit about my W's affair was for Lil...it's pretty inarguable that affairs put a pretty good stomp on someone's puppy/bunny. But coming out of my M, affair and all, my belief in openness and vulnerability was sky high. Especially after having splashed my life out for anyone to see for about a year on the Infidelity forum. It's life since then that has led me to believe puppies are to be handled internally.

I'm not at all sure that belief lines up with martyrdom, anyway. I'm not necessarily complaining about it (maybe I am...I'll have to think about that), I'm saying that's how it is. I think there are women that can successfully deal with a man's puppy. The interesting question is: even with such a woman is there a real downside to keeping one's puppy to himself? I rather suspect that there isn't. I think women want to see a guy's puppy because it gives them a sense of security and comfort but if a guy's got his St Bernard in order, I'm not sure the additional comfort and security of a puppy show buys you much. So there's a lot of downside for not much upside.