I can relate Mishka. I gave the letter to my W right before Christmas 2006. I had sent it to her e-mail account and her comment to me was a sincere thank you. As far as the tough tone with her later about her choices backfired. I think a lot of it depends upon what kind of characteristics you displayed before.
I have instead taken the tact of unconditional love.
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God