She can function well enough to take college courses and pass them with A's....
She can function well enough to carry on a relationship outside of marriage, including pursuing an individual through internet searches...
She can function well enough to participate in school functions,
I've said all this before to FIB, the only time she cannot function is when it comes to her H and her kids. Then she explodes in anger or rolls up into a fetal position or calls FIB pleading for him to come home fast.
What is the solution? D? S? counseling? drugs? Stay in the M for the 'kids sake'? FIB has worked thru all those options and gave his W plenty chances to get help and be helped. How much more is he expected to give?
Am I saying for FIB to get the D? nope, I am not. My personal opinion is that even though it's been about 2 years of hell it's not enough time for Mrs FIB to work thru the millions of issues she obviously has. Remember when all we talked about was her eating disorder? that hasn't been brought up for how long now? is it still ongoing? Remember when all we talked about was her neglect of the kids to leave in poop and urine and unbathed? that hasn't been brought up for how long now? is it still ongoing? Remember when we all learned of each of the 3 affairs? that seems to be the final straw. How many of us want to be the standing spouse thru 3 affairs? is it right to do that? When is enough enough? That's got to be a choice that only FIB can make. A solution based choice that considers what is the best solution for the family. FIB, do you want to start again with a beginners mind? is it in you to try again?
Sorry if I'm slapping again FIB, it's not my intent to cause you pain.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
