No, I can honestly say that I never have-- I don't call names, I don't insult, I don't kick a guy (or a gal) when s/he's down. How do you think I've managed to put up with insults and rudeness from my bf for over five years? I don't fight back. I've asked him to stop, but he says, "That's just the way I am. Get used to it." He's the first guy I've ever been around who talked that way to me. Every other R I've had has been based on civility.
I've never said "f you" in anger TO or AT anyone in person to their face, although I've said it plenty to the ether and bit my tongue plenty of times. I did do it one time in writing. Words can be so devastating, and once they are out of your mouth, you CANNOT get them back. When those words are on my tongue, I am able to stop myself from saying them.
That's one reason I get so mad at my bf. He acts like language is something you can't control. But he never speaks like that to his kids. He could control it if he wanted to.
My parents did a lot of U-G-L-Y yelling at each other when I was very young. I still remember some of the hateful, disgusting, hurtful, but creative phrases they used, and I've never repeated them to a living soul. I guess that's where I got the idea that I would never be guilty of that.
What constitutes "kicking a man's puppy dog" to you?
