Small positive steps, what now?

[seekpeaceofmind]

I love your goals - especially the ones that focus on you, your kids and your quality of life. My only comment would be to do them for your own benefit and not to get your H's attention or show him what he is missing. If you are doing things for you, they will be more positive and satisfying. And, it looks like the things you want to do will keep you too busy to worry about what H is doing, feeling, or planning. That will give you the time and space you need to get more clarity about the best course of action for yourself, as opposed to reacting to him.