Well, what a day yesterday, we went to the marriage counselor together yesterday. I pretty much just sat and listened for this was only the third time W has gone and it was my sixth. The MC was simply trying to get us on the same page. He asked W 10 times if she wanted out of the marriage but she never really answered directly. He kept saying you must let H know so he is not just hanging around on false hope. The last time she finally said “yes, I am done”. I almost died. I believe the only reason she even went was to get the message across to me that the marriage was over. She felt too horrible to tell me directly herself. She said she was not depressed, no MLC, no WAW just done with her love for me.
So we went home and told the kids. It was a very indirect conversation telling them that Mom and Dad just did not get along very well and were sleeping in different rooms now. No mention of D or Separation. The kids took it pretty well. My oldest S18 took it the worst, he was quite upset. S 16 was just ok and S12 I don’t think he really understood. She is contacting her lawyer today to discuss separation agreement.
What a mess. I really think we are done, I have been completely detached and doing all DBing tactics. I almost fell like I want this whole thing to be over.
What do you guys think should I keep DBing or just move on?
