I am sorry to hear how your S is feeling. One trick my kids doctor told me was to give them a popsicle when they get a high fever and are dehydrated.
If possible I'd try to let your current situation pass before making a decision on how to approach your H. I agree with Kerry, but take a deep breath and get some rest before you set your sites on a plan. You are under too much stress right now to do it in a constructive positive way. At least I know I would be. When I get tired and stressed I've learned to keep my mouth shut, because nothing good can come from it.
