New and alone

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Christarn, thanks for the top 10. I am going to print up the list for myself.

JeninVen,
I am so sorry that you have to be going through this. The first thing I would recommend is to read Micheles's book Divorce Remedy. There is a wealth of information in there on DB. Also continue to post and read other people's stories. I found that has helped me a lot in seeing that I am certainly not the only one going through this and that my M can be saved.

Your H needs space right now. Accusing, pleading,crying, argiung will only push him further away. Believe me, I know from experience - my H left when I wouldn't stop all the above behaviours. He was also having an EA which he denied and to this day continues to deny he is involved with OW but doesn't want to work on M.

You have to find some things to do for yourself to help take your mind off your M. You said it has been hard making friends; do you have any family where you are living that can support you emotionally/socially? I know what it's like, feeling alone, because we moved to a new place a few months ago and I have no friends or family for a couple thousand miles. I have started some new classes and exercise a few times a week but it's been difficult actually making friends.

You've stopped pursuing. That's a great step. Give H space and GAL for yourself. Those are some things to start on.