Priorities and tests of strength

[fearless]

Relationship or not, to regard the other gender as the enemy is not good.

Well I may have overstated it by saying "enemy!" Although I would have stated burg's viewpoint (as far as I can tell) as "men need to protect themselves against women" which certainly leads to the "enemy" status of women. However I think the issue Burg (blackfoot?) might have with women is more due to their view of women as flighty, irresponsible,untrustworthy, crazy, etc. and not so much that women are purposely the "enemy."

I still don't have much of a problem with this viewpoint IF the guys have no intent to get into a relationship. To me it is a woman's problem if she decides that she wants to "make" a relationship with this type of man.

It was interesting to me how many women here didn't take Blackfoot seriously when he stated awhile ago that he did not want to be in a relationship. Rather than listening to his statement, many seemed to "assume" that he was just skittish about relationships or afraid he couldn't be a good partner rather than just believing that he truly did not want a relationship at least right then.

But that's me. I tend to listen to what people say and take them at their words. XH had a hard time stating what he wanted but then would be upset if I couldn't guess correctly. of course guessing correctly is pretty tough to do!!