I've got a question for you; something I've been wondering about for some time... and let me state up front... I'm not being in any way critical... I just would like to know your POV.
When you were married... your W put the kids first and you resented this (is that accurate?) because your wants and needs always seemed to fall way down on the list somewhere...
While you were M... would you have missed a band concert or two if that meant you and your W were going to have really hot sex?
Now that you are not M, hot sex will never come before a band concert. Now that you are single, you have this very firm stance that the kids come first... before R's, other people... whatever... why does your marital state change this?
It seems like I see this discrepancy with you, but I certainly don't know if it is an accurate one...
