If you want to better understand what T is saying about the legal stuff really ruining your chances look at my thread and the struggles I've been thru' because my W filed for divorce instead of working on the M or even separating for a while as your H has done.
Also I think Astrology could be dangerous. My W frequently looked at Linda Goodman's book and ran her life by it. To me it seems like a way of abdicating one's responsibility to Leo, Neptune or Uranus (sorry I find the last one particularly amusing ;-).
I know how restless it is to be in limbo. But you are really pulling it together and even bravely supporting other newcomers. Hope you are also moving along towards your goals listed earlier. We are all supporting you.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread