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For anyone that right now is struggling with fear, anger, bitterness or any other negative emotion, here's a quote from Vincent van Gogh. A man who gave us some of the most beautiful paintings in the world. This struck a cord with me this morning, reminded me that love, compassion and Faith are the true elements of my heart. So I hope you too can put aside all those negative feelings and make love, compassion and Faith the foundation in your heart and your actions.


"Perhaps it will seem to you that the sunshine is brighter and that everything has a new charm. At least, I believe this is always the result of a deep love, and it is a beautiful thing. And I believe people who think love prevents one from thinking clearly are wrong; for then one thinks very clearly and is more active than before. And love is something eternal--the aspect may change, but not the essence. There is the same difference in a person before and after he is in love as there is in an unlighted lamp and one that is burning. The lamp was there and it was a good lamp, but now it is shedding light too, and that is its real function. And love makes one calmer about many things, and in that way, one is more fit for one's work."

-Vincent van Gogh


If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa

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well said Catfan. van Gogh was a very troubled man but saw many things that others did not in his mind and with his canvas. Right now I am to new to this pain to think past it. I ned to get to a point where I can be still and think properly, I hope I get to this point soon for I am really hurting and not thinking properly. I need to trust and love but it is hard when someone is trying to hurt you as bad as they can.

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BT, you'll get there, it'll take time. One of the challenges is you will go through cycles where you feel all the old feelings good and bad. For me I've just went through a two week cycle where all the old hurt and anger resurfaced. It came about from comments my wife made after we signed the sep agreement. It peaked yesterday when she came into church and asked to sit next to me. I wanted nothing to do with her because all that came of any interaction was a renewed thrust of these emotions. But finally I've been able to break it. Hopefully without too much damage because she had picked up on this and has gotten distant and very guarded.

So realize it comes and goes, how you manage it is the key.


If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa

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Cat,

What do you do when there is no "reply box' at the end of your thread to send a message?

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Well BT you've locked up your first thread. Not sure if that's reason to celebrate or cry but it is what it is.

So now you start a new thread. Best to title it like your first with part 2 or what not on it too.


If we really want to love, we must learn how to forgive. - Mother Theresa

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Hey cf!

I'm over on Surviving for now, since I will soon be facing that! Just came over to see you and avoid real work at the same time. How are you? I looked at your registartion date. I can't beleive we've been in this personal hell for going on three years for me, and two for you. Ugh. It does seem to get a little better, but there are days when I just miss the old times so much, it's devasating!

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