When I was at my lowest point I had a reading done for me which also covered W (in desperation we do anything) and it said our M was over and had been for some time, W was in an A, and she'd also had other male friendships that I would disapprove of. It also described a strong bond between W and OM not love more a friendship and sex. Funnily it said that we don't D and also W and I would go on holiday together this year. There was other stuff, but basically I've been running scared trying to prove it wrong.
I've put it all to the back of my mind and just got on with Db'ing but it's there at the back of my mind. I'm definitely not going to mess with anything like that again.
Hi there Lanzo...I dont like the sound of your reading either!..thers no way you can tell from charts that your W had had other R that you would disapprove of nor could you say with certainty that the M is over..only that conditions could make this a posibility. Sounds like the person you saw was rather unethical and also threw a bit of "pyschic" reading into it. I would never ever make such bold statements. You cannot say to a client "you will go on holiday together" - this could be to do with Jupiter or the 9th house...which COULD mean foreign travel, but it can also mean just learning about foreign cultures! Or higher education in general. So I wouldnt run scared, put this reading out of your mind. For something as critical as a reading for your M, I would advise anyone to only consult an astrologer who has 20+ years of experience and is a member of a reputable body, or someone who teaches astrology. The trouble with astrology, its like reflexology, or acupuncture, anyone can do a course and start charging people, but its one of those things that takes years and years of study and a very ethical approach to get right. I'm sorry for you that you had a bad experience!
Kalni...with your birthday being on the 3rd, Uranus has already gone over your Sun and is still nearby, this will be causing you lots of disruption and change and chaos, but Uranus will only go over your Sun once in your lifetime at your age and its already now moving away from it, so things will calm down this year.
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I really don't have much to add to what Transformer said because I think what she wrote to you was absolutely amazing.. You are doing great.. you're just in a slump right now and I think if you just step back and focus completely on yourself and your kids that you will find your stride again.
I've been on hold mode today. I didn't send the letter (one them at least) and didn't do anything. I'll sit on it for a while. I need to share some thoughts withyou but I 'll do it later (after my kids go to sleep).
Kalni, My thread is "No One To Turn To" in Newcomers. You responded to my first post and that is why I thought I would catch up on your sitch. I haven't been posting much on my own thread as there hasn't been much change. However, it has helped me immensely to read other people's sitch and try to respond.
Hang in there! Tomorrow will look much brighter.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
If you want to better understand what T is saying about the legal stuff really ruining your chances look at my thread and the struggles I've been thru' because my W filed for divorce instead of working on the M or even separating for a while as your H has done.
Also I think Astrology could be dangerous. My W frequently looked at Linda Goodman's book and ran her life by it. To me it seems like a way of abdicating one's responsibility to Leo, Neptune or Uranus (sorry I find the last one particularly amusing ;-).
I know how restless it is to be in limbo. But you are really pulling it together and even bravely supporting other newcomers. Hope you are also moving along towards your goals listed earlier. We are all supporting you.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
I love your goals - especially the ones that focus on you, your kids and your quality of life. My only comment would be to do them for your own benefit and not to get your H's attention or show him what he is missing. If you are doing things for you, they will be more positive and satisfying. And, it looks like the things you want to do will keep you too busy to worry about what H is doing, feeling, or planning. That will give you the time and space you need to get more clarity about the best course of action for yourself, as opposed to reacting to him.
me: 47 H: 48 he has 2 grown sons M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd) hit iceberg 6/07 S 9/26/07 before now
If you want to better understand what T is saying about the legal stuff really ruining your chances look at my thread and the struggles I've been thru' because my W filed for divorce instead of working on the M or even separating for a while as your H has done.
I know how restless it is to be in limbo. But you are really pulling it together and even bravely supporting other newcomers. Hope you are also moving along towards your goals listed earlier. We are all supporting you.
Well, fb2,
I have been contemplating on what to do (I haven't used this word for ages). And I know exactly what you mean fb2 about filing and so on. And T , it's the same here in Greece, once you go ahead, you can stop it, but in the process a lot of ugly staff may come out. I actually turned it around with the legal separation papers his L was preparing (which BTW was his ex-girlfriend that he left after meeting me- I am sure she enjoyes it a lot).
I decided I'll keep quiet and distant as said in my goals and you all said (I would have followed your advice anyway). Minimum level of communication (doing great with that, no frustration about it). GALing (I am meeting a friend from Paris haven't seen for ages, she just returned- I am planning a 2 day escape possibly next week to a mountain somewhere- I am going out on Friday night, etc. etc.). Haven't become prettier yet (ALI), haven't started on my painting and I have a couple of orders pending, but I will.
As far as Astrology goes, I know some people think it's weird, but I had a very powerful experience in the past, so I can't ignore that. Of course I am not taking everything as granted and I do believe that me & my H were meant to be together and that power T was talking about still wants it. But I don't know if my H wants it anymore...
Kalni...I think you've come to a good decision about pulling back a bit, being less available, see what that brings. I am rooting for you fellow fish! I only just twigged that we are the same age...are you 37 in March? So am I, 1971. I so wish your H would respond in some way for you, I am thinking of you this evening. Ali x __________________ Me: 36 H: 34 LT: 9 years ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07 Own apartment: 26 Jan 08 http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1354028&page=0&fpart=1
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
