Glad you had a good time in La La Land. I used to live there and have been to most of those places. Life's a bit surreal there.
I'm not an expert, but my advice would be that now that you've told him what you need, back off for a while. Let him come to you and do those things. Give him time.
Guys (at least me) don't seem to react to pressure in relationships well. Generally men (especially type A guys) like to feel in charge and being told what to do isn't always welcome. I'm not saying its right, just reality.
Give him positive encouragement when he does something you like (e.g., checking in from the road, a kiss, whatever) and avoid the negative stuff as much as possible. Go back to the "I like it when.... you call me from the road,... kiss me goodbye.... etc.
We men can be trained. It just takes the right tools and approach
