Some possible dangers yet to watch out for (you might not run into these, you might find totally new ones) - Resentment. You may feel like you did all this work,suffered so much, tried so hard, that you deserve something. You may resent your W for putting your through this, needlessly (seemingly) and you may resent her for not honoring you enough for all the hard work you did. - Regret. Regret that all the opportunities you may have seen opening up to you through your GALing maybe left behind when you are back with your W. Don't you want to take the new you out for a spin? - Fear, that she could do it again, that the real issues haven't been fixed, addressed, that she won't communicate when she's unhappy and you'll be hit again.
Some ways of dealing with these things: Remember, she has been working hard during this time too, very hard, maybe harder than you. She has many fears too, among them, what if you don't forgive her?
I think your tips are really good. Every sitch is different. Going Dark, too much, isnt' right for everty sitch. Some generalities still apply though - pushing about the R almost always pushes them away. - GAL, positive attitude, is important to bust the D, and everyday, in a good relationship too.
Did you take the antidepressants?
My W and d12 are flying in this coming weekend. We're going to have a great time. I was able to get reservations at one of the best restaurants in town (in the country, I think) because my best friend is head waiter there. MM, It sounds like you like food and wine, so I thought you'd appreciate this. The restaurant is Fruition, you can check it out here if you're interested http://www.fruitionrestaurant.com/ I'm a little nervous and excited. I'm 46 and feel like a teenager on a date too. Got to get a haircut, clean up the house, etc. This will be a much better valentine's day than last year.
M45, W45,S15, D10, Bomb 10/3/06, Moved back in 11/6/06, finally ILY 9/07 last thread
