Originally Posted By: JennyF
I told him yesterday that I was going out and the e-mail came today. Why?
J~


Supermom,

I would have guessed that was your answer...now this is just my opinion but I kind of see this as an attempt for him to try and bring you down, or control you of sorts...like he's trying to get a reaction out of you, trying to control your feelings. He knows you are going out and I feel he's not too comfortable with that so he's grabbing onto whatever he can that he feels will upset you. Kwim?

What has been your reaction to past questions from him about the bills? Does it upset you? Does he see that it upsets you?

Now what would happen if you e-mailed him back today...in a cheerful tone...gave him the information that he requested, and then added something in about tonight (or whenever you're going out with friends) like..."Daughter is so looking forward to spending time with you tonight. I got her some new coloring books etc.. for you guys to work on while I'm gone" Some little thing like that...something that will show him that you've put a little preparation or thought into this night...like you've really been looking forward to this night out and want it to go smoothly. Disarm him of this thing that might upset you or that he knows upsets you. Let him feel your smile through the e-mail, phone or whatever...see what happens ;\)

He doesn't need to know what you're doing, who you're with, etc... YOU know that you're just going out with some girlfriends, but he doesn't really need to know that. If he was so concerned about your social life, he'd still be apart of it right \:\/ I'd be sparse with the details. I'm sure he's got a cell phone number for you if there is an emergency. Be cheerful, have a good time and see where it all leads.

- IC

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