B - Just a thought as I was reading through much of this thread (I am running out of time, gotta get kids to school), I hope you are focusing on your changes for the better and not focusing totally on doing what you think she wants.

After 10 + years together, you have formed relationship habits that are probably not the best. Make a very distinct effort to change your reactions to situations that have come up in the past.

After typing this, I think I need to do the same in my sitch. I guess that is the core of DBing.

Best of luck and I will continue to follow your sitch.

J

H-43
W-41
S-15,S-12,S-11
Together 22 years
Married 15 years
Affair Discovered - March 06
D Day Announcement - Dec 23,07
Move out Day - Feb 15,2008
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1350958&page=0&fpart=1