Ok Ali. Take a deep breath, sit down and try and make your world slow down around you. I bet when you type your posts you are hammering away at the keys at a 100mph! Firstly, just because you are raising the kids on your own please don't think there is anything unusual about their behavior. H and I have been back together and blissfully happy now for 10 months (he just bought me a beautiful new wedding ring)and my 16 year old d spends most of her time in her room etc! Teenagers are like that and I'm sure my 11 yr old will do the same. It is an inert part of being a teenager that makes them think only of themselves (sound familiar!!) and along with that "the world is against me" mentality. IMO the only difference when there are 2 parents in the house is it someone to share these times with and dilute the burden so they are hopefully less difficult to cope with. I have said to you all along that when you are ready the D will give you peace but only you can decide that time. It is your life and you must do what is best for you. Your H is way down the MLC path and sometimes you have to lose something completely before you can see what you are missing. Maybe the D will help him to realise this once he has no amunition to get angry with. At the moment all the anger he feels will blot out any feelings he may have for you. Anyway just my humble twopenneth. You are often in my thoughts. Take care
