Oh my GOSH... this is so beautiful!! It brought tears to my eyes... This is SO AMAZING, you are a DBING MASTERMIND!! WHAT A TURNAROUND!!!!!
I know this is already your plan, but I would take things slow slow slow. It sounds like she wants relief from her job situation right away, but still a lot of change in herself and the R. I wish you had a situation where she could come back a little more slowly without fleeing the cottage and her job and coming back to you all simulatenously. It seems like sometimes when people make all those changes at once they become sometimes unstable and discombobulated. And sometimes we think it's the outer stuff that needs to change when it's the inner stuff...
BUT!
I think it is SO AMAZING that she wants to change herself!!
I actually have a very good friend who is kind of in your W's situation even though she is not married. She became very interested in an OM who she felt stimulated her creativity. It turns out he is a jerk, and I hope thinks work out with her original partner, who has a heart of gold.
But I think this thing happens frequently: We get into these hardened roles in our R's and we think we need to get out of the R's to get out of the roles. But what amazing growth and transformation can occur when we can get out of those roles and STAY in our Rs! Shakti Gawain has a really good chapter on this in her book "living in the light". I don't know if you're in a position to recommend reading to your W, but that is a very beautiful book. It isn't an R book, but a personal growth book. It is very comforting and beautiful. She writes about how we put ourselves and our partners in boxes with labels on them. And after a while we get sick of those labels! That is what your W's comments reminded me of. We all want to get out of our boxes and labels.
Your post lifted my spirits so, so, so much... Keep us posted !!!!!!!!
