Mishka, Sounds like your going through a whole lot right now. Try to step back and breath. I know this isn't easy at all. I guess the only advice I can offer you is to still stand your ground as it sounds you have been. But try to do it in very kind ways, kind of softly & gently. Even when he is a complete jerk about things, you must try and keep your cool. I know it is easier said than done. If you take the higher road, you will be the one who benefits from it. You will be able to look back and say that you held your dignity through out it all. The MLCer is going to do every thing you never wanted or expected them to do, just accept this fact. And try to distance your self from it more and more. The more you act like this doesn't bother you and that your life is actually better off with out him, the more it will make himself have to look with in him - instead of always accusing you. He sounds like he is still very much within the MLC tunnel (and having an OW will probably prolong it). How much are you willing to take? The farther you can get from his drama the better. As he will be stuck there for a long time yet. Keep standing on your own, but distance and make your self more and more mysterious. Make him have to pursue you if he wants anything at all. It sounds like you sure can use a break from his shananigans anyways. YOU CAN DO THIS, HOLD STRONG & KEEP COMING HERE TO VENT. TIPPER
