I forgot to mention yesterday's interesting interactions with XW. D14 and her went shopping and it went bad, so when I talked to D that evening she went on about how mean mom is. I actually agreed with mom's decisions and while saying I understood D's frustration and disappointment, I would have done just what mom did! Later W called to ask me if there was something I wanted to ask her about sitch with D because D was badmouthing her and she overheard it. I told her I was in complete agreement with the decisions she made and had no issues with her. W talked about how hard it is to be dealing with D14 and even though they were hugging and talking more it was still pretty explosive at times as D got mad and tossed things around in her room, W let her be (hooray for small miracles!). Again, I empathized and said I understood it's very difficult for mom's during the teenage years iwth their daughters. W also asked me if I was going to the cottage with them this summer, if so, she would try to book a bigger cottage. I said I didn't know and W said if I didn't come the girls would be so disappointed and they wouldn't have as much fun. She said " it will be so hard for them and will put our family situation right in their faces" I said, "the reality is we are separated, the girls will have to recognize that we won't be doing everything together that we did before, that's reality!" Does it hurt to think of not going with my family to the cottage? YES, but I will not make such a decision until I know how I feel about it. W said she would then confirm the cottage we already have, I will share a bed with one of the girls and she with the other if I come. That's the best I could do. Yes, I want us to still be a family but seven freakin' days in the same cottage as my XW...ooh, not an easy thought!
