My WAW is in a narrow field in academia. Like I said before, she can move to CHINA and not be able to avoid OM because of the nature of her field. This isn't just changing a job, it's abandoning everything she's focused on for over 12 years. Yes - she screwed up royally by getting involved with OM, but that doesn't help me.
I'm not in a position right now to walk in to her and say, "WAW, even though you've now asked me for a D 2x, and you live elsewhere, and you have little to do with me, drop what you've focused on for over a decade so we can be together."
I think I need to take this in stages. I didn't say it couldn't be done, but that I wasn't ready to tackle it yet. Later, I can suggest that she do other things that wouldn't involve OM, but right now, she is outright not open to it and if I insist, she shuts me out. So I need to stabilize and show her someone who has more to offer.
