Been very busy...lifewise...my office manager is out and I am running everything. Just a few quick notes:
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I mentioned making her suffer because of what he said about making her realize the pain and suffering he went through.
Jeannette....I never said this or it was taken out of context. My W kept saying that I was trying to or intentionally going to destroy her by choosing divorce by 'cruel and inhuman treatment. I have told her in the past that I cannot do a separation and dangle another year in the breeze when she had two years now..two years and three indiscretions to know what she wanted. I also told her that my L told me that separation was NOT in my best interest if there was no hope for reconciliation. It was my determination that recon was dead. So..that line...was said to her to explain that by deciding to go forward, the state of NY only gives me one way to go...that I kept it as factual as I could ..that these 30 were not meant to HURT HER..but to show what hurt me...NOT TO TRY AND MAKE HER REALIZE ANYTHING. In fact, I told her that she had two choices:
read all 9 pages and say,"that F'in FIB...what liar....what a $hiThead....all lies...I'll get him, ...or....
read all 9 pages and say , "I cant' believe how I hurt my husband, family and children
I do agree that my W has issues far deeper than MLC...and some of them may be incompatible with a stable and healthy marriage. I can tell you one thing for sure....3 indiscretions is enough to last anybody a lifetime...being an excellent liar may be far worse.
Time will out. I have not stopped anything. My W doesn't want a D. Actions speak louder than words.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
