Please do not give up hope. I know you are fed up. If you feel like you have no patience left, you do not have to rely on your own strength. Ask your higher power to fill you with patience and strength. We don't have to do this alone!!!!!! God, the Dharma, whatever you want to call it, wants reconciliation to happen. Not just you. Do you hear what I'm saying? This power can work within us, even within the WAS, for reconciliation. Alone we are too puny! We must rely on greater powers WHILE marsheling our greatest strength and comittment!
I know our situations are very different, but please if you are thinking about filing, read refuse to lose or tostada's threads and see how much SH!t they are dealing with. It will be way, way, way, way harder to win your husband back and reunite your beautiful family and bring a father back for your amazing (if currently projectile vomiting children) once you get lawyers trading letters enumerating all the ways each Spouse has "failed" to be a good partner. PLEASE KALNI. If you are fed up... distance. Make cheese pies. Talk to your friends. Talk to us. Paint. Redecorate. Buy beautiful new clothes. Play with your amazing children. Whatever it takes. Make yourself feel good. But Do not file!!! Maybe it is different in Greece, but here, D makes everything suck SO MUCH MORE... not less.
Can you remind me what your goals are for him? Or what the "first steps" would be that would indicate that he *might* be turning? There are so many things from your thread that SCREAM to me that you should be hopeful... he was excited about the sex positions calendar!! He has told your C that he is interested in coming back, right? Those two things alone are SO HUGE. Others on this BB are prepared to wait months, maybe even years, for those kinds of encouraging signs.
I know you miss him, I know you are sick of this BS. You want your husband, best friend, lover, father of your children, back at your side. I know you want this solved so soon, soon, soon. But what is your time frame? how can you adjust your time frame and your expectations of him? They are only going to come back on their time frame. We cannot control it. We can try to "lubricate" things with our DB'ing. But in the meantime we have to focus on our own strength, our own happiness, we have to sustain ourselves, because patience is the name of the game! Do not let his timeframe wear YOU out!
I am thinking of you Kalni... You deserve to succeed. Don't sabotage your own success with your frustration !!! Keep your eye on the prize!
