So he's being a first-time full-time daddy -- and he doesn't know what to do? I hope at least he will come to realize everything that you do now. I hope it gets easier for him -- and you (and that the phone calls stop!). Here you are trying to detach and he won't let you! Hang in there...
Reality is slapping him in the face. I say, be totally helpful, answer all his calls and questions nicely. Can't hurt, and maybe you being calm with him will help him gain confidence. He needs to be good in this role, for the sake of your D. I know you don't want this D, but help him do this, it'll get better.
Not so much because I asked him not to. He says he wants to try "us" again. I said I need to think. His behavior continues to show me that he will continue to waffle regarding ow...
Today was the first day I felt like myself in a looong time. I did only what I wanted to do... It felt so good!
I'm sure your head is reeling!! He's been so hell bent on D. You have your thinking cut out for you -- or maybe you don't. I know you've been in the frame of mind that you were done with him, too. Is it too late? Has he destroyed what was left of your feelings for him?
You have your thinking cut out for you -- or maybe you don't. I know you've been in the frame of mind that you were done with him, too. Is it too late? Has he destroyed what was left of your feelings for him?
I told him it was too late. I can't forgive him. He's taken it too far. I don't even believe he would be able to cut it off w/ow if he tried.. *sigh*
I also feel a bit guilty that I actually LIKED my time alone this past weekend. It has been soooo long since I got to be me and not Mommy or wife to someone. Is that so wrong?? Ok.. I feel a lot guilty...
No!!! Time for YOUR Mid Life Crisis!!!! Have fun!!!!
And if he can change dramatically change and definitely dumb (how's that for a freudian slip!) OW before the D is over... well... who knows. I think at this point he'd have to DB his @ss off to win you back.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
I think you are right, Olive. He has waffled back and forth for longer than I've been reading your threads. So you can't just greet him with open arms and baskets of forgiveness.
