I let myself get caught up in that and asked if he was emailing OW. He told me no. I said, H, I know I can't control what you do, but I will ask you not to email her when I am here. I walked away. SueS
Hummmmm.... maybe instead you could have said, "I know I can't control what you do, but if you are going to email her while you are with me, we should do this together. It's rude to leave me out..."
And then you might have added something like, "....and after that we can email my boyfriend too."
(Now you have one of my "alternative point-of-view" messages on your thread )
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