... I was hoping to use the next few months to work on the R and myself ...
Yes, that is really good. Continue to work on yourself.
However, and there's probably some debate on this subject, how is it possible to work on your M when there is a third person involved? Sorry to sound negative, but IMO, I can't see it happening when H is getting to have his cake and eat it, too.
If he's determined to continue with his A, then he needs to get the he** out. He needs to see and feel what it's really going to be like without his W and children there by his side every night. He needs a rude awakening from la-la-land.
Yeah, I'm still mad. I need a drink!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
