WAW....now the LBS

[HOPEFULinCALI]

MR. HYDE VISITED TODAY

I had a bit of a backslide today. I saw H on Saturday and when leaving said I would see him the Sunday to say hi when his sister flew in for a visit from overseas. He said ok. So I see him yesterday and the entire time he is giving me the cold shoulder and hinting that I need to leave at some point.

This morning I tell him I needed him to treat me nicer. He responded "are we doing this again?". I said, "doing what again, I'm kindly asking that you treat me with some respect". He kept trying to make an arguement out of it and I tried my best to stop it. He said, "a friend doesn't come over uninvited". Huh? The day before we had discussed getting together when his sister flew in. He is also bothered that I come over to OUR house on very few occasions without his permission. Also, he is bothered by the fact that unlike him I tell others (my friends and family) the truth, that we are married. He also felt I invited myself to get together with him, his sister and mother when they go skiing on the holiday. When in truth I was planning on going on the same day and when he told me he was I suggested that we all go together which he thought was a good idea. According to him all my actions are nonsense and dramatic. He says he is leaving because I am dramatic however, I can do all the things above when, not if, he decides he wants to be married again. When? Why all the game playing? He is creating drama by being a man completely void of all moral fiber or compassion.

I am getting really sick and tired of his hot/cold attitude, him telling his family and friends lies about me and our relationship, trying to date behind my back, looking at porn and telling me what I can do and say. He even gave me a hard time about what I ate for lunch on Saturday. He has also given me a difficult time about how I spend money. Keep in mind I am the saver. He is spending his money pimping out his car. What rights do I have? I have no say in his life and apparently not in mine either. He appears to have no problem with 99% of the things I do and say, but then later tells me this, that and the other bother him. Please tell me how one goes from being put on a pedestal to someone who can't do anything right.

I have the intensive with Michele in less than three weeks, but I am afraid I might just flip out on him before them. I am simply not accustomed to be disrespected and taking it. I think he is particulary aggitated because his sister, and on Wed. his mom, will be visiting for two weeks. If I come around his lies about our sitch will fall apart.

Help please!