W not angry any more and wants to work on the M

[Lanzo]

Hi CL,

I take your point about slowing down I guess Rome wasn't built in a day

Your fear is a trigger for thinking that unless your W acts the way you want her to, then the M is doomed.

This is exactly how I feel, this is based on past mistakes and the fact that W wants to reconsile in exactly the same fashion as last time and that didn't get us anywhere. I want to see us do somthing different, have an idea where we are going, not just "work harder" and hope things get better.

How about putting more emphasis on listening, and finding out what's important to her?

I would listen, but when it comes to serious talk W clams up and doesn't talk, she always wants to hear what I have to say. If we argue then she ll let me have it with both barrels otherwise not much comes from her.

Thinking on, I'll probably leave any serious talk for now.


Lan