You certainly are a mess. And I can say that, having been there, more or less in similar roles.
Look Patrick.
Your kids are not tools. They are not pawns, or weapons to be used against each other.
Can't repeat that enough.
If you use them like this, you're going to damage them, and then your a crappy father.
The police are absolutely right until an agreement is in place there is no agreement other than verbal with your wife...who doesn't like you right now.
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I agree, but if I just keep ignoring her won't it just seperate us more?
Well its good you agree, I am glad you agree. That is all you need, you don't need to question it if you agree, right? Here is why you agree. Because all the contact you have that you think is ging to keep you close...how is THAT working out for you? Real well? Well enough that a police officer had to come (I assume based on your notes) to discuss the kids schedule between the households? Yeah...more contact right now is a bad thing for you until you can control your mouth, emotions, and mind.
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I mean, that's fine if we are not getting to get back together. But in that case why am I hanging on?
Well of F-ing course its fine if this all works out. If going through hell meant you get your marriage back, EVERYONE would do it, it is no test of your marriage or yourself if you already KNOW the outcome and just had to hang on. IS your marriage worth doing EVERYTHING you can for it, AND NOT knowing if it is going to last? You'd walk through HELL for the person you love if you knew you find her at the end. BUT would you walk through HELL searching for the pesron you love if you only thought they might be at the end of the journey?
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I am pondering dating again...I need to have somebody else to think about, care about, care about me....Who knows maybe the feeling will subside.
DON'T.
Two wrongs do not make a right. You are going to hurt yourself, more importantly you are going to hurt another woman who doesn't deserve this.
You are NOT defined by someone else, or a relationship. You define yourself. You forgot that, hell most of us here forgot that.
Fix yourself.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
