I've been on these boards for about six months now, posting in different areas and under different names. You can following the links below to see some of my history. I don't want to bore you with the details and I don't want to dwell in the past, but will summarize here quickly...
My W bagan a affair last year around July. It was someone with whom she worked and had known previously in grade school. They started talking and doing lunches and an emotional affair started to develop. I found some text messages that I wasn't comfortable with and confronted her. Was told that W wasn't happy in the M and hadn't been for a long time. Things escalated and the EA became a PA. The OM's W contacted me and a couple of times and things got a bit volitile. Twice my W and OG promised to end the affair, but then started up again. I began working on filing for D at the end of the year and was days away from having my W served. Things took a big turn around New Years Day of this year. My W recommitted to our marriage and in January, we attended a Retrouvaille weekend together. We have since been to three follow up weekends and although things aren't perfect, I can see that we are really building a better future for each other.
I believe we have a somewhat unique situation here because my W also posts on these boards. I had told her about my posting a long time back hoping that she would see how many people are going through the same situation, but then regretted that I had told her and changed my login. We are in a better place now and I believe we can share some postive messages with others on this board as well as get some advice going forward.
