Thanks LJ. I'm so confused right now. I wrote her a letter explaining that she doesn't have to lie anymore. I'm an adult and I can take it. I can't continue to disrespect myself by ignoring it or let her disrespect the kids by having them hide it. But thats all I said about OM. The rest of the letter talks about how I am happy that she is finding herself and doing things for herself but why can't she do it in the framework of our marriage?
I ended the letter with this: I am not trying to start any further arguments; this is not some effort to win you back, I realize its over and I understand why you feel that way. But I want you to know where I am coming from as I try to rebuild my life. However, I would like to point out that in the moments you've let your emotional wall down, we both recognized that if we re-engaged in a positive manner to move our marriage forward, it could become stronger than ever. But its hard when there is three people involved instead of two.
A lot of me wants to hit send. But a lot of me is scared because it might push her closer to him. I'm so confused. I sent a whole bunch of V Day stuff to her and the kids this week. So I guess if I do send it at least it will be followed with kindness.
