I have said it before and will say it again. You are doing so well this time around. Be proud. And keep it up.
*hugs* ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
Hey everyone!! I am going to have a bussssyyyy week. Wont be on here that much! One of my biggest days at my business is Vday! So its going to be alot of late nights. Then after all of this....I have Jury duty next week!! Yuck!!
Busy, busy, busy....
Also got word last night that the OW dumped my H!! Good...maybe now he will get some much needed time ALONE!
Hope everyone has a good week!!
Thanks swl....You have been so sweet to me! Have a Happy Valentines day if I dont get chance to talk to you again this week!!
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Great news about the OW dumping H. Hopefully he will start looking within himself and the healing can start for both of you.
My H told me 2 weeks ago that he and OW are living together "off and on" (when she doesn't have her kids. I think this arrangement will make it longer on H & myself to resolve any issues because he's not getting OW reality. They are each others fantasy. No kids and just lots of fun. Who wouldn't want that life! LOL
I know you will be busy this week making beautiful arrangements. I hope you and everyone here has a great Valentine's Day.
Kissak, your H is gonna come begging ...pleading,,,whining...on your doorstep....dont be tempted
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
Haha!! Your right....which time indeed. Lets see, they were together off and on for a year. They were Never together for more than a month at a time, but she was the OW he had over this year.
She sent me a text today, it said "I dont know if your H told you but I ended things with him on Saturday. Good luck to you both! But you should know that I will always be his friend!"
She can kiss my you know what!! His friend??
Right now It doesnt matter to me....He knows the rules for ever coming back, and she is the #1 rule.....I am stronger this time around.
I know I seem weak when it comes to going dark and all, but I will not be hurt by him again and I will not let my kids be hurt by it.
Keep praying for me though guys....
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
I was thinking the same thing as 2moro. This sounds like he's falling into his old pattern- please Kissak, do your best to break the pattern on your end!
Yes...this is the same old pattern and it is really scaring me. H does want to come back home. But in talking to him last night, I was really bothered. He is not the same man. His mind was spinning and the things he was saying really didnt make sense. I told him that I wasnt trying to pressure him into what I was going to tell him, but Our MC had come by to see me a few weeks ago and he had the name of a counselor he wanted my H to talk to. I told him that I really think that he should do this...he agreed. Said to get him the number and he would talk to her. His thoughts were spinning and I really wanted to just shake him. Wake him up! I felt like he was about to have a nervous breakdown.
Im really worried about him. I was second guessing everything he said, it was like he was not himself at all!!
I am ok though, I really feel a detachment though about it all. A peice of me is afraid that maybe I dont feel the same about him anymore. That is what is scaring me too.
Should I be feeling that way?
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
Remember, the MLCer is going through changes and wearing many different "faces" to find the one they are most comfortable with. No matter what else, he will be at LEAST a little different than when all this started. You and he will have to get used to that difference and fall in love again.
I don't want to dash your hopes, but there IS a chance you may not feel the same after. That's what happened with me and X. But, I believe we were an exception and not the rule.
"I made the wall of shadow draw back, beyond desire and act, I walked on.
Oh flesh, my own flesh, woman whom I loved and lost, I summon you in the moist hour, I raise my song to you."
His friend?? 