First of all, the advice that you have given others, including me, is NOT overshadowed by your "fall from grace" as you call it. You have helped countless people on this board, and others, and have been an inspriation for many. It does get difficult when you find yourself engaged in trench warfare again. It pains me to read about your W. talking about moving to her old home town with one bed where your kids can sleep when they visit. What's stopping her from pulling the trigger here?
You're right on target. Detach. Tough when she's there every moment. Much easier for me from 7K miles away and being away for more than a year.
