Battlefield of the mind

[cat03]

Don't put yourself in the sitch where the BS comes up if at all possible.
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Good point, in some ways I ask some questions to "see" what he might say, not often but one time is one time too many, thanks for the idea

Is there any way to step back from the R arguments so you don't catch the blame for his problems at work?
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we did have a "no R talk" during work,at the time I called he was off, though later on we slipped and ended up in a bad place.

Thanks Aud :), I need to stop trying to catch him in a lie when we talk or when he just has a slip of the tongue, I should focus on positive ways of interact instead of trying to find fault when somethings he said "dont add up". HE did get very frustrated and didn't believe he was contradicting himself, I think he forgets how much damage his lies have done to my trust in him, so its hard for him to understand when I get all suspicious.

We r talking fine now, and we are still on for tonight