I understand that you were looking to motivate your wife, and sometimes we do work like that (I work well under pressure). Yet, it's very controlling to throw your approaching deadline out there to see if she scurries. I surely wouldn't be motivated by that even if I had been leaning toward reconciliation.
Now, if YOU are feeling that to move on to the next stage of YOU it is time to make some changes - well, that's a lot different. Not to see what she does with them, mind you.
I'd love to see your Goals thread, can you direct me there?
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
