Help Me Act AS IF, Part 3

[Nature Girl]

lmg,

You CAN do this. I know how hard this is, but you CAN do it!

You will be the strong one right now because he can't. Like Ingrid said, cry when he is not around. It puts pressure on him to give you something that he just can't right now.

I think the flirting is a good thing to do in your situation because it sounds like your H responds to it, but you have to do it with no expectations that it will lead to anything. Think of it as a way to let him know that you find him sexy and desirable and not as a way to get him to actually ML right now (something that you really want as a connection to him).

Have you read Jim Conway's "Men in Midlife Crisis" and Sally Conway's "Your Husband's Midlife Crisis"? I found them both to be really helpful in understanding what could be going on in a mlc-ers head and why it is happening.

(((hugs)))