First of all, it was never a time limited plan...5 years was just what it happened to wind up being. I don't want people to think that I had an actual timeline that I executed.
That alone is actually something to think about. 5 years is a long time for some things and a relatively short time for others. When we're talking getting our spouse home, we tend to put that on the short term - no one wants to wait forever. Yet when you think about removing the ingrained habits and negativity from yourself, 5 years might not be that long after all. Granted, I wouldn't mind if he had come home a lot sooner...
Yes, I was the "strong one". The one who finally got smart and dumped his sorry carcass. It made it hard to DB, because it all sounded like a load of bunk to the friends and family who couldn't figure out why I wanted this man in the first place. We were not the "such a shame" divorcing couple.
Even now, people are shocked that we're married again and it "works now". Yes, it does work now. It works because I have learned so much about my personality and his and know better than to have to have it all my way. It's not easy but it works now. He knows that I have my standards but I don't shove them down his throat. He wants to do right by me and our family. It can't be easy for him everyday either, but it works now.
As for the question and answer thread - please do. Ask away. I post from work so I might not be immediate in my response, but I will be as prompt as I can be.
"It is not easy to find happiness in ourselves, and it is not possible to find it elsewhere."
--Agnes Repplier, writer and historian
