My guess is that the thread was moved because of the subject line.
I am not sure if you have noticed but the mods are cracking down and bringing the board in its entirety back to the original intentions.
Any thread on any given day has both hilarity and seriousness within. Perhaps if you want to remain on Surviving you should create a thread that doesn't have the word Party in the subject line.
That being said, have you contacted a moderator for an explanation?
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
Tried contacting via the "PrivateMessage" function but it would not Send in The End.
Sent lengthy concern to "Contact Us" on home page but I am sure they don't care much to be contacted on the weekend. Maybe tomorrow they will find that this did NOT go unappreciated or noticed.
I hope that folks discussing MLC over in Separated or Newcomer won't have to go hunt for their thread in other forums.
I hope they won't mind us doing our Surviving wherever we find ourselves, in any way that helps us do just that ... yes, I'll have fries with that ... and Biggie Size it please!!!!
Ugghhhh!!! They just locked your party thread in surviving after asking why you felt so strongly that it needed to stay where it was. Sorry, Tom.....it sucks!!!
Seems that on the "sex" threads people can talk about BJs, masturbating, etc. and it's never censored. That's OK, as it's what those forums are for. However, we in the "surviving" forum can't party??? WTH??? Aren't we just showing the world that you can "survive" a D, get on with your life, begin new healthy Rs and just have some fun? We're saying to everyone....a D will not kill you. Life can be good again. You "will" survive it and be happy.
Ouch ..... Tom .... dude, you do seem to have hit a nerve. Thank you for trying to answer the question posed. Not sure how to bail you out now that the doors have been slammed shut and "locked". Guess that means it was truly never open for discussion.
You also seem to have helped identify at least a couple of words that are no longer deemed acceptable in thread titles, unless posted here. I wonder if the moderators intend to actually begin reading all posts for quality of content, or just the titles?
Didn't realize there were so many rules to Surviving. I do thank God that I am not still drowning in the perfect storm as I witness such a cold and inconsiderate tone of control. Perhaps many more will find themselves nere as their thread is deemed inappropriate and moved from Separated, Newcomer, or MLC. Maybe those thinking of being a WAS or experiencing Sexual troubles will be safe.
I can't count how many threads inject humor into the suppprt shared with one another. How many will be subject to annonymous complaints or censorship? Perhaps when the DB book said to maintain your sense of humor, it said when, or how much? I missed that.
It is unfortunate that posts about our day to day journey into surviving are only acceptable when they are viewed as focused on a limited topic.
It seems a lot of nerves have been struck here ... needlessly. It shouldn't be. There is so much that can be shared by those that have been in the trenches and survived. One of the things that helped me most was lurking and seeing folks maintain their humor in the heat of the hellfires; in every forum. I found I could occasionally laugh for the first time in months and months. And in that I found hope for better tomorrows.
It allowed me to feel one moment without pain, then another. In those brief moments I found strength beginning to return to my desimated psyche, and physical being. I was able to try and connect with others, for the first time in too long. And I began to feel able to offer support to others that I related to. Posting was certainly not always in jest and often emotionally draining to experience.
This web site and the people here helped save me. I will be eternally grateful for that. I will not let this cloud my concerns for the others here that are still in their journey, and learning to deal with the pain. It is something I learned a lot about on the roller coaster. Regaining composure. Detaching from what I can not control. Focus on the positive. I learned from those that were ahead of me, and to my side.
Tom, You helped. You are one of the good ones and certainly a Survivor. You have been a resource on many threads and your support appreciated. Stories of the peeps, Otto, and so much more are special. Thank you for those while I enjoy recalling a few. Sleep on it and see what is next.
I'm not Survivor, but it seems to me that the Party Thread is all about DBing and surviving. PMA, check! Act as if, check! Work on yourself, check! Detach from the negativity, check? So where was the problem? It puzzles me quite a bit. I didn't see anything even close to inappropriate, just people in various stages of pain getting together to support each other!. I think someone has considerably misunderstood.
The "funniest" part of the whole episode is that the PM said at the top of this thread that this would most likely be the last! So after a long history, the last Party Thread is the one exiled to the nether reaches! Go figure!
Despite all that, I hope that this one example of bad judgement (in my opinion) doesn't cause anyone to leave, this place is too special to let something like this ruin it!
The PT is and was a place where people could come and just be themselves. Yet, it is not a fun thing.. There is nothing fun about the ending of a marriage and trying to move on.
Such a thing is not trivial.. and by putting it.. the PT in that place.. the DBB has made it so ? Let the "Get together" folks rule that space. The PT does not belong there. We catch everyone that falls out of every category in the PT. Dont you see that ?
I dont mean any disrespect to the Board. No rules have been broken here. There has been nothing to breach any sort of site agreement. I simply ask that you respect this Thread ? That is all. It is a good one.
Tom
I luv ya Tommy Pants.
I feel disrespected too, and It's not even my thread. It is a thread, that has wiped away my tears plenty of times.
It is a thread, that helped me know that I can grill anything. My kids owe you a thank you for that.
It is a thread, that made me realize that puff daddy wasn't the only crazy one, that Pea brain was riding the same loco bus.
It is a thread where I learned about sanding different pieces of furniture.
It is a thread that has taught me how to refinance my house, paint a ceiling, hang up a pic.
It is a thread that has been here for me like a warm blanket. It is a thread that taught me anything and everything goes with doodles.
I'm sorry why the powers that be don't understand.
They also have not "held" on to us for the past 2 years the way that we have held on to each other.
It may sound dramatic to some, How can a little old "Party" thread, mean so damn much.
I dunno, it just does.
I love you J!
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