I realize I'm being a doormat. Will read the book. I guess I feel that she's eating from two plates of cake, but one looks nice and big to her and the other just has a few crumbs left. Now that I'm in a new place for myself and am not needy & clingy, I want to make her realize that there is still cake. Then I feel like confronting and creating distance would be more effective.
I need some time to stabilize things a bit and to also get my ducks in a row about house, job, etc. so that if I ratchet things up, I'm prepared to follow through, all the way to the end. Right now it's in my best interest to keep her on the fence a little bit longer.
