I was reading just this old post by eskb on all of his fear on piecing his marriage back together, and all of my fears are the same as his. He also includes the one where you have the feeling that the WAS is not trying as hard as you are to piece things back together.
2. Apparent unwillingness on the part of my W to work on the R. I say "apparent" because I think she thinks she is working on the R in her own way. However, she still avoids all of the following: R talks (including discussing my needs and issues, discussing the OG and the A, and discussing how we can improve our R), reading any R books or information on websites, going to a MC, etc. She seems to think that if we just both try harder (but especially me), that will fix all the problems.
