My H has NEVER intitiated any contact with our girls since Apr.07. If I ask him to do something with them or for them or they ask him he will but has yet to initiate anything. He does call D16 once in awhile. But that is it.

And yes H was a great father. He was very much a part of their lives and now nothing.

And yes it is very sad for them both.

M41
H42
D17
Adopted N14
M22 T24
"Bomb" 4/07
Sep 8/07
Admitted OW 11/07(only to me)
OW back 12/4/07
PA on off thru 7/08
says done w/OW but not coming home 8/08
D final 7/09
Moving on and up!!