Perhaps you might have to employ some stealth tactics here - How about asking her what it "looks like" when the two of you get on - to her that is - simply cos you want to make sure you're both on the same page with it. That might enable you to talk with her about a few things that can help. Could it be that at the moment overt trying is challenging to her cos of the connotations it brings?
Best - GFI
Me: 40ish W: 40ish Together: 20 ish years Married: 10ish Years
